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Heather Floyd's avatar

Maya, I agree with all your points... The "ick" part for me was the whole "a woman helping a moody, domineering man on his emotional journey". I guess because women are always expected (socialized) to feel that we have to manage/appease men's emotional issues, frequently swallowing our own feelings at the same time.

Personally, I prefer the stories where the guy figures it out on his own (or with the help of his pals or family) - maybe because he compares himself to the emotional maturity/strength of the heroine and realizes he needs to work to measure up, or similarly, he is on the verge of losing the relationship unless he truly "mans-up" with emotional courage.

The appeal of the billionaire/duke IS for the heroine to (finally) have the resources/power to not have to deal with all the sh*t life throws at her on her own any more. That can read as dis-empowering, but for modern women readers (exhausted, stressed, overwhelmed), it can feel like relief - the fantasy is to have emotional AND physical support.

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Maria Rodale's avatar

I liked this post more than I thought I would.

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